I would consider myself a mostly positive person. I’m happy a lot of the time, and I know I’m lucky because of that. That being said, it’s far too easy to get caught up in everyday stuff and forget what’s really important in the scheme of your life. Something that does make me happy is writing lists, so with this week’s #TheBlogRace challenge I’m sharing ten things to remember for a happier you…
You don’t have to know what you’re doing, all the time. I’m a big believer in the whole ‘fake it ’till you make it’ approach because hardly anyone really has a big plan. We’re all sort of bumbling around pretending to be grownups and hoping for the best, aren’t we? If your job’s not perfect, or you haven’t got a five-year plan figured out right now it doesn’t matter.
You also don’t need to be anywhere by a certain time. You don’t need to be in a race with other people for getting married, buying a house or having a baby. It’s so easy to be jealous of someone else who seems to have it all, but you can’t compare your own beautiful life to a stranger’s.
It’s your job to be the kindest person in your life. Be kind to yourself whenever you can, because being truly happy in yourself is one of the biggest challenges you’ll ever face. This is obviously far easier said than done, but giving yourself a well-deserved compliment or focusing on something you really like about yourself goes a long way.
You’re in charge of your friendships. You know what, sometimes a ~friend~ just isn’t good for you, and doesn’t add any positivity to your life. If someone isn’t making you happy, or is just there when they want or need something, you’re able to say goodbye. Life’s too short to deal with people who aren’t rooting for you.
Not everyone will like you. They really won’t, and that’s OK. Do you like everyone you meet? I definitely don’t! Pleasing everyone all the time sounds pretty exhausting to me, and as though you’d constantly be trying to give people the right impression. If someone doesn’t like you for who you are, then it’s time to move on and sweep them off of your radar.
Online isn’t necessarily real. It’s far too easy to get swept up in a sea of Instagram posts and new videos showing off fabulous hotels and dinners. This isn’t real life! This is the fun stuff of life, and isn’t a normal thing to expect for everyday. Remember that people only put the best stuff online, and if you’re having a bad day or feeling a little jealous… everything online is put up with the aim of looking good.
Things don’t matter as much as you think they do. Whenever I get a bit stressed or feel overwhelmed, I try to think if what I’m worrying about will matter in a week. A year. Five year’s time. It never does! It’s very easy to get caught up in the small stuff, and to worry obsessively over little things. I’m not saying that anxiety and worry are things that you can turn off because they’re not! I’m talking about the little stuff like someone sending you a snippy email – that stuff doesn’t matter.
Always try and be grateful. I complain, a lot, about not being able to have my blog be my sole income but I have a lot to be thankful for. I have an amazing husband, a job that pays the bills, a lovely home, a great family who love me and some beautiful friends. Whenever I feel a bit negative, I try and list all the good things in my life because there’s a lot to be grateful for! It could just be one thing you’re grateful for, and that one thing will make your day seem that much brighter.
You can take a break. Doing nothing is good for the soul. I’m the worst at doing this, because I like to be busy all the time but every now and then it’s good to relish the art of taking a break. Having some downtime is pretty much essential to make sure you keep going and to make sure you’re happy.
Life is short. Finally, finally, life is very short. Spend time doing what you love, and spend your time with the people you love. You’ll never ever ever regret spending time with friends and family or chasing your dreams, because that’s what really matters in our short little lives.